The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.e.e cummings
Great things are not done by impluse, but by a series of small things brought together. And great things are not accidental, but must certainly be willed.Vincent van Gogh
Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you’ve already done.Newt Gingrich
This quote is hitting a little close to home today. Remember to keep persevering today! You can do whatever you set your mind to.
Around nine in the morning on August 29, 2019, my husband, brand new baby, and I were transferred into our hospital room. A short while later my parents arrived. My husband’s mother wasn’t able to visit (I delivered sooner than expected). I adore my mother-in-law, but it was nice not to seem put together for another person.
I’m relatively close with my parents and I’m thankful that they were able to meet their grandbaby pretty much immediately, but looking back at it now, I think I would actually skip out on having visitors at the hospital. I would’ve really liked to use that time to be with my husband and Little P.
Overall, the number of visitors we had was pretty low. My parents and there was a family friend that stopped by. My parents stopped by multiple times throughout the day. The family friend came unannounced with my dad, which I didn’t appreciate, but that’s beside the point.
Every time people came to visit it felt like everything stopped and the focus went to them. I was exhausted, my husband was exhausted, and everyone just wanted to see and hold the baby. At that point, your baby needs to eat every two hours and (if you’re like me) then whenever your changing diapers it’s frustrating and difficult. You’re learning your baby and figuring out how to be a mom. My point here is, you’re not getting a lot of sleep and having visitors takes away time that you could be trying to nap.
I had a natural birth, so we only stayed in the hospital for about 24 hours, not including the whole birth process. I would probably feel differently if we had the C-Section as planned. We would’ve been in the hospital for three to four days. That’s a much longer time to be there. There’s more time to recover (as there should be) and a few friendly faces would be a welcome sight after a surgery like that.
For my circumstances though, I would’ve like to take everything in with my brand new little family and dealt with the greetings and celebrating once we were at home and comfortable. So, for my next baby (if there is a next baby), I think I will ask visitors to please wait until we’ve left the hospital to say their hellos.
So, what do you think? Are you all for the hospital visitors after a birth or do you want your space as well? I’m also curious if you’d be upset at not being invited to come to visit in the hospital.
What to Prepare Before Baby
How exciting, your little one is almost here. You’re nervous, you’re excited, you’re starting to get ready. You’re wondering what you need to get ready. Well, here’s a few things that will make your transition into parenthood a little bit easier.
Get diapers in a few different sizes. The hospital will have some for you, but it won’t be enough to last. You don’t want to be in the unfortunate position of starting to change your baby only to discover that you are all out of diapers.
Depending on how big Baby is, you might not need many newborn diapers. In general, newborn diapers are up to 10 pounds. Size 1 is 8 – 14 pounds. Size 2 is 12 – 18 pounds.
Personally, I ended up having roughly 400 diapers of both size 1 and size 2. I ended up having a bunch of leftovers. If I were to go back and rebuy, I would start off with 100 of each size (NB all the way through size 6, I’m a future planner kinda girl). This way I have a base amount and can purchase more at later dates.
Pro tip: Get diapers with the wetness indicator, I’m in love with them.
Buy a brand and see if you like it. See if you need a wipe holder (maybe those wipes you see for cheap are cheap because they’re a refill pack, a mistake I unfortunately made). I didn’t realize I would prefer one brand of wipes to another. But I do. So, now I have a bunch of wipes that I’m not really happy with but still want to use since it seems like a big old waste to get rid of them or give them to a friend.
Wipes will be your best friend. There have been a few times when I’ve ended up using them for myself (quick hand wash, face wash, wiping sticky things down).
3. Baby’s Room/Bassinet
You don’t have to go all out with decorations and everything, but it’ll be nice to have a changing area and crib set up. You may as well get everything put together now while you don’t have a little one demanding your attention constantly. If you already have kids, it’ll be nice to have this set up that way you don’t have an additional little one demanding attention.
You should also get Baby’s first bed set up as well. The bassinet (or whatever else you’re using for Baby in your room) shouldn’t be too hard to set up. For this one, you’ll mainly be making sure that it fits in your room nicely.
You’re going to want to get all those cute clothes, blankets, burp clothes, etc. all washed and dried before Baby gets home. This will give you a chance to get everything all organized as well. Take a good look at that organization there, you might not be able to keep those clothes that nice again.
5. Freezer Meals
I didn’t want to cook when we first brought Little P home. It was so nice just being able to open the freezer, pick a meal, and then throw it into the oven and not have to worry too much. You’re still figuring out your new baby, you’re adjusting to a very different life now, don’t also worry about figuring out dinner.
Bonus tip: get crazy, get/make some frozen breakfasts too. Start your day off nice and easy food wise.
6. Your Hospital Bag
You may as well get this all packed and situated while you’re getting everything else taken care of. You don’t want to be in labor and scrambling to find things you need. Speaking of things you’ll need, check out my “Hospital Bag Necessities” post (https://bit.ly/2USqxA5) for the things I absolutely needed with me.
Remember not to stress too much! This is an exciting time. Don’t spend so much time worrying about all the things that need to get done and remember to (try) and enjoy yourself. Getting these things done will help you keep busy and make things a little bit easier for you once Baby does arrive.
Let me know what you think! Was this list helpful? Do you have any advice on what to have ready before Baby arrives?