Challenges

Weekly Self Check Up

All right, Venturers, for this weeks challenge I did a mental check-in every day. I try to take my mental health very seriously. I have a bunch of self care things that I try to keep up with doing. Keeping track of my mood and recognizing the reasons I feel things is one of the number one things that I want to make apart of my daily routine.

So, this week I used an app called Youper. It’s an AI that asks you how you’re feeling, why you’re feeling that way, and then you can dive into why you’re feeling that way, or do some other tasks. My goal this week, was to note my mood, state what was contributing to my mood, and then follow any suggestions from the AI. In general, this was just notating the specifics of why I was feeling a certain way, kind of like a diary.

I’m proud to say that I was able to check-in with myself every single day. It’s actually really easy to find the time to notate how I was feeling every day. If Little P is fussing, I could still hold and comfort her while inputting how I was feeling.

On top of how easy it was, it was nice being able to get stuff off of my chest. Sometimes I don’t like complaining about things because it’s small and I know how small it is, but I still like being able to just complain about it. I got to write out how I was feeling and then move on.

I don’t necessarily feel any better, but it’s nice learning my triggers. I feel more in tune with myself now than I ever had in my life. Now, I wish I could just do this in a journal. I really like physically writing out how I’m doing and what happened that day, but for some reason I can’t keep up with it like that. There’s something about it being in app form that helps me keep up with it.

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Postpartum and Beyond

The Dreaded Teething

Teething is the worst. There’s tears, frustration, confusion, and on top of that your baby is in pain and crying as well. Today, we are looking at some tips and tricks on getting through those teething times with your little one.

Take a Step Back

First, as frustrating as it is, and it is so frustrating, remember that they are so confused. They don’t get why their mouth hurts. Honestly, even if they did it would still suck. Mouth/teeth pain has got to be one of the most uncomfortable and unpleasant things. So, you just have to take a step back and remember that what they’re going through sucks. You can add some crying of your own if you like, however it’s not necessary.

Teething Rings

Get a bunch of different cooling teething rings and toys. There’s ones that are shaped like keys, that also double as pacifiers, ones shaped like animals, actual rings, and the list goes on and on. Pick a few different ones and get them nice and cool. Keep a couple of them warm and see if your baby just prefers that instead. If one teething item doesn’t work, maybe your little one prefers a different one.

Cold Washcloth

So, at one point my little one hated all of her teething rings. I don’t know what happened, they just weren’t doing it for her. I took a couple of her washcloths, got them wet, and I put one in the freezer and one in the fridge. Once they were both really cooled down I let her chew on those. The plus side to these were they stayed colder longer, but they were really cold on the hands and they got everything wet.

Frozen breast milk/formula/ice

You know those mesh food containers? You’re going to need one of those for this one. I, personally, made a bunch of formula ice cubes. Then, when my little one seemed to have a hard time eating because it hurt her, I put the formula cube into the mesh container and let her have it. It helped to ease her pain, plus she still kind of got some food. (Just to be clear I did not use that to replace a meal) If you breast feed you can also pump and freeze your breast milk. You can also simply grab some ice and see if they like that. I recommend using the mesh food container just to help protect against any potential choking and it has a handle to protect against cold fingers.

Distraction

Try to do things that your baby enjoys. Go outside for a walk, take a warm bath, sing a song, whatever your baby usually really enjoys just try that. You might be able to at least distract them for a little bit.

Pain Reliever

I never used any sort of ibuprofen, however, it is always an option if your child seems to be in a lot of pain.

Vanilla Extract

I’ve also never tried this one, however one of my friends swears by it. If I ever actually had vanilla extract in the house, I probably would have used it. The method behind this one is to put a dab of it on your finger and then to rub it on the gums.

Thoughts

I know I missed a fairly obvious one that a lot of people use which is teething gel. However, my pediatrician recommended not to use it. I also saw that the FDA had issued a recall on a lot of teething gels (sprays, etc) because there were more risks than benefits.

Honestly, the most important thing to get you through teething is patience and understanding. I know, it’s tough when you’ve got a screaming child that you can’t seem to calm down. Just remember you can get through this!

Let me know what you think! Do you have any tips and tricks on surviving teething? Don’t forget to share with your friends! Make sure everyone has some relief to get through teething.

Pregnancy

Why Pregnancy Sucks

A lot of the time pregnancy is presented as a magical time. If you had a great and magical time while you were pregnant, then that’s great. You know what though? Pregnancy kind of sucks. It’s nine months of hormones and changes in your body. It can be confusing and a little bit scary. It kind of sounds like going through puberty all over again. So let’s take a look at some of the lower parts of pregnancy.

Swollen feet/ankles and hands

I had this in my third trimester. It was awful. I couldn’t wear certain shoes because they just didn’t fit and I couldn’t wear my wedding ring. Work was a bit annoying at the time as well. Typing was a bit more of a hassle with little chubby fingers. Walking on swollen feet hurts as well! Most of the time I just wanted to sit back, prop my feet up, beg my husband to please rub my feet (again), and just relax.

Morning Sickness and nausea

Does anyone know why it’s called morning sickness? Maybe it’s because you can feel more sick when you first wake up. I’m not too sure, but odds are you’re going to feel sick a lot. It will not be exclusively in the morning. Certain smells will probably make you feel sick and might even make you throw up. If you’re lucky like I was, then just hearing about a food would make you sick. I don’t know how this one happened. My husband kept talking about spaghetti, next thing I knew the word itself (more so the actual thought of the food) made me feel sick, and I ended up throwing up.
So magical.

Urination

The bathroom will probably be your best friend during your pregnancy. If you’re not throwing up (or thinking you’re going to throw up), then you’re probably peeing. You have to drink more water to take care of your body and your growing baby, but even without that extra intake of water, your hormones are causing blood to flow to the kidneys quicker, which fills your good old bladder up faster. Plus, later on your baby is basically sitting (and kicking and punching) your bladder.

Leg cramps

I’m not sure if this one is super common. I had the worst leg cramps though. Not throughout the day either. My leg cramps showed up in the middle of the night after I finally got to sleep. Have you ever been woken up because your calf is trying to murder you? It’s not pleasant.

Pain

Back pain, hip pain, pelvis pain, headaches. You name it. A growing belly puts a lot of strain on different parts of your body. I personally had a bunch of back pain and hip pain. It’s annoying to have a bunch of emotions and then pain in various parts of your body. Honestly, I cried once because my hips were bothering me so much. It wasn’t because it was a severe pain, just dull and it was there for so long. Like one of those dull headaches that never seem to leave.

Moodiness

Speaking of crying, you’re probably going to be pretty moody. For me, the first trimester was like a bad case of PMS, the second trimester was okay, but the third trimester was the worst. However, the third trimester might have been so bad because at that point I was done being pregnant. Please, get the child out of me, because I don’t want to be how I am anymore.

Alcohol

Congratulations if you don’t drink, this isn’t that bad for you. I however, enjoy a few glasses of wine. All right, a couple of times I’ve finished the whole bottle, that’s not what we’re talking about. After a long, hard day, it’s nice to be able to enjoy an alcoholic beverage to unwind. After a long, hard day of pregnancy, hopefully you have an endless supply of massages because I’m not quite sure how you unwind.

Dietary Restrictions

Oh, you think because you’re pregnant you can eat whatever you want? No girl. Overall, you want to be eating mainly healthy things. You don’t want to load your baby up with junk food constantly. Plus, some women get gestational diabetes as well, so they have to be extra careful with what they eat. Overall, I’m not saying you can’t splurge, but you can’t constantly use being pregnant as an excuse to eat unhealthy food.


There you have it, some of the lows of pregnancy. Sure, some women have super easy pregnancies, and while I slightly resent them for it, that’s so great for them. Some women have even more difficulties and problems with their pregnancies. I think for the most part, people tend to fall somewhere in the middle.

While pregnancy is a cool time, you’re growing a baby, that’s pretty awesome, don’t forget that it doesn’t have to be magical. If you don’t feel like a glowing beauty the whole time, then that’s fine. Don’t forget, it’s only nine months (even though the last trimester can feel longer) and at the end of it all, you’ll get a beautiful little baby.

Let me know what you guys think. Were your pregnancies hard, easy, or in the middle?

Challenges

Weekly Meditation

All right Venturers, this past week I did a daily meditation challenge! My goal was to do at least five minutes a day. I am proud to say that I did at least ten minutes every day! I never had a specific time that I did the meditations. Some days it was late, others early, and once I even did it smack dab in the middle of the day. So, after a week of meditation lets take a look at how it affected me.

I’d like to be able to say that I’m a completely changed person now and that it changed my life. A week of ten minute meditations isn’t enough for that kind of change though. I can however say that I do feel like I am a more positive and thoughtful person.

For the week, I used an app called buddhify. I absolutely love it. It’s free to use (there is a membership if you want to upgrade). I usually get my meditations via the internet after a simple Youtube search. I always had trouble with that though. I’m very particular about the people’s voices.

I’m hoping to keep up with meditating. It’s a nice bit of time when I can just calm down and focus on myself. I was able to take a step back, look at my day and how I was feeling, and then just let it all be. If I was mad or upset, then that was okay. If I was happy, that was okay. Things were going to come up that upset me and that’s okay.

I think meditation is something that everyone should give a try. I don’t think I did anything formal, so I don’t have any sort of science to back my feelings up. I do however think that it can be a good way to delve into ourselves and learn why tings make us feel the way we feel and to overcome some of our pettier emotions.

Let me know what you guys think!
Are you in meditation or do you not believe the hype around it?
As always, see you next time and thanks for visiting!

Postpartum and Beyond

What I Hate about my Pediatrician

Overall, I really like my pediatrician’s office. They have an entrance for healthy kids and an entrance for sick kids. The wait times seem to get longer and longer, but I come to expect that with all doctor’s offices, so I’m pretty forgiving on wait times. There are two things that come to mind when I think about why I dislike my pediatrician.

The first, is very minor. When we took Little P in for her first office visit the doctor we saw said that she had jaundice and recommended we bring her back in a couple of days to check on how it was progressing. We came back, saw a different doctor, who basically said he had no idea what the last person was talking about. So, definitely minor, but a big old waste of my time and that was frustrating. I guess I’d rather have them be safe than sorry.

The real reason that I have been incredibly frustrated with my pediatrician is that they constantly harp about Little P’s weight. It’s also how they go on about her weight. At our four month visit, Little P had put on five pounds since her two month visit. Personally, five pounds in two months isn’t that big of a deal to me. However, we weigh her (the nurses go on about how they love a bit of a chunky baby, it’s great) and then the doctor comes in. “Five pounds, momma, wow. Five pounds momma.”

My husband is here and my husband is also taking care of and feeding our daughter. Why is it “five pounds momma”? After a multitude of shocked “five pounds momma”, the doctor then proceeded to tell us that once a baby starts moving around the weight gain tends to slow down.

This visit has seriously stuck with me as a parent. My daughter was and is still in the normal weight range. We don’t overfeed her, she dramatically coughs and gags if we try and give her a bottle she doesn’t want. Plus, she’s happy and other than the “five pounds momma” has had no issues. No matter how many times I tell myself all those things though, I hear that stupid voice “five pounds momma, wow”. On a bad day, this memory makes me feel inadequate as a parent. On a good day, it’s just a dramatic pediatrician who was surprised at a hungry baby.

It may seem really small to some people. I’m sure it doesn’t bother my husband anymore, if it ever did at all. As a brand new mom though, it’s frustrating. Why was it only my fault that the baby had gained five pounds? Why was it a big deal she gained five pounds in two months? It wasn’t a week or even one month, it was two. How was I supposed to prevent that? Not feed her even though I knew she was hungry?

It made me think that doctors can have a very narrow view of what should and shouldn’t be happening with a baby. At our six month visit, Little P had only put on two pounds. The doctor, however, still seemed hung up on the previous visit’s weight gain. She mentioned again, “Oh, once a baby’s moving around the weight gain isn’t that big of a deal”, “Oh, was she breastfed? They tend to be bigger babies”. It’s frustrating and not productive. I’d rather the doctor give advice on weight loss at this point.

If the doctor is concerned about the weight, then that’s fine. Maybe it is a big deal and I just don’t get it. That’s the point when the doctor should give advice and next steps though. Not just say, “oh five pounds, wow mom”. I also, don’t want to be the only one getting spoken to. My husband made Little P too, he makes an effort to go to every single doctor visit, don’t exclude him from the conversation.

So, there you have it. The reason (well two) that I dislike my pediatrician. Overall, the positives outweigh the negatives, so I don’t see us switching pediatricians. It just kind of gives me a reason to feel like I should doubt myself. Remember to make sure you pick a pediatrician that works for you though! You’re going to have a relationship with them for a long time, so make sure you get someone who gives you a good experience and who is competent.

As always, let me know what you think! Do you have any doctor horror stories? Or even better, any “my doctor is the best” stories?