Do you notice how mean and critical we can be to ourselves? When other people make a mistake I am much more understanding and patient with them than I am with myself when I make a mistake. Having some self compassion is a really important part of self-care and, in my opinion, it can get really overlooked. Let’s take a look at some of the ways that we can all be a little kinder to ourselves.
Celebrate the things that you accomplish. You’re doing great things every day. Recognize those accomplishments and congratulate yourself on them! Even if you’re having a bad day and you feel like all you did was mess up all day. Pick something you did. Recognize that you tried and let yourself know that it’s a good thing.
Nurture Your Advocate
You’re probably really familiar with your self critic. They’re the ones coming in with mean words and judgement. How familiar are you with the nicer voice in your head though. Now, don’t get me wrong, the critic can be very motivating, but they can also really bring you down. So, make sure you’re also saying nice, positive things to yourself. You probably won’t be able to completely shut your critic up and like I said, it can be helpful. So, when that voice stops being helpful to you, it’s time to become your advocate. Respond to the critic with kind words about yourself. Keep at it.
We all make mistakes. Start forgiving yourself for yours. Failures and mistakes are apart of life. You wouldn’t berate a child (or even a friend) constantly for the mistakes that they’ve made. You forgive them, teach them, and help them move on. Start doing that with yourself! This isn’t the first mistake you’ve made and it won’t be the last. It’s okay. You’ll get better.
You don’t need to break the bank to treat yourself. Grab your go to comfort item and take a breather. Especially after a hard day. Just give yourself the opportunity to relax. Take a bath, grab a book, listen to that song that lifts you up. Now that doesn’t mean you can’t treat yourself to some retail therapy as well. Just don’t overspend if you can’t afford it quite yet.
Take a Break
If you’re able to, take a mental health day. Put everything not essential on hold for the day or even an hour. Do something that you enjoy. Be kind to yourself during that time. Recharge and prepare to tackle whatever it was that was bringing you down in the first place. It’s okay to take a breather every once in a while.
Being kinder to yourself is such an important part of self care and is so easily missed. I hope this helps you be kinder to yourself! This was especially important for me to write because I was being extra hard on myself and I also needed the reminder to be nicer.
Let me know what you think! Are you guilty of being meaner to yourself than you should be?
Thank you so much for stopping by and I’ll see you next time.