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8 Month Update

Another month has just flown by. I know every update I do I seem to get lost at how fast time is going and how much Little P is growing and different. It’s just so baffling! I can’t believe it.

My husband and I now have a crawler. Seeing her curiously crawl around is so much fun and so stressful. You don’t realize how much stuff you have that a baby shouldn’t be grabbing and playing with until you have a baby pulling at cords and trying to climb on everything.

We’re also finally at the age where our dog is more interested in her. He realizes she gets people food now, so he’s right below her when Little P eats. Little P is also smitten with him. He’s a pug, so they’re both small. She’ll crawl right up to him and they touch noses while they stare into each other’s souls.

Her first word was “dada”. Of course, right? She can drink from her sippy cup by herself. She can also drink from her bottle by herself, but she prefers if we feed her. She pulls herself to stand and uses furniture to walk around.

Every month I think there’s no way I could love her more because she’s already so incredible. Here we are again though. I’m just so amazed at the transformation in a matter of months.

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Postpartum and Beyond

Why I Make my Baby Food

When I was pregnant I had never realized that there was an option to make baby food. I had assumed that only option was to buy it. I did a bunch of research and book reading on raising children and I stumbled upon baby food recipes. This had opened up a whole new world of options for me. So, I decided to at least give it a try once we start moving on to solid foods.

I gave store bought foods briefly and decided that homemade baby food was the definite option for me. So here are a few reasons on why I prefer to make my own baby food.

Save Money

There’s very few things that I enjoy more than saving money. This is one of the main reasons why I make baby food. A pound and a half of fruits (or veggies or meats) can make about 15 ounces of baby food.

Some math:
Let’s say that my daughter eats two ounces of solids per meal with three meals a day. Once a day, she’d be eating a total of six ounces. I’ve seen four ounces of Gerber baby food going for as low as $0.99. So, for a full day I’d be spending at least $1.98. Two pounds of carrots at the store (I used Smith’s) is $1.49. I get two and a half days worth of food for $0.50 cheaper.

Obviously, different foods will cost different amounts, but on the whole, you’re saving money.

Combinations

I notice that a lot of the stage two foods are already combinations. Which I totally get because you want some more exciting flavor combos for your little ones. My concern here is my little one not liking it and me not being able to tell which part of it wasn’t for them or even being allergic and still not knowing what caused it. It would also be a bummer to find an interesting combination and then not be able to get it because it contained an ingredient my little one was allergic to (or didn’t like.

With making my own food none of that matters. I can make any stage as a single at first and then combine from there. Plus I get to come up with the combinations, which is kind of fun.

Texture

So, I did try a couple of store bought foods for Little P. One was Gerber and the other Beech-Nut Organic. Both were stage two and a little on the thin side. I like being able to control both consistency and texture of the food. Once I got the okay from my pediatrician I started making my food thicker and Little P loved it. I also get to have her try different consistencies in the same meal. For example, she can have a thicker avocado and a thinner sweet potato one right after the other.

Fun

I really enjoy making food for her. This just happened to be an added bonus since I didn’t know it would be fun when I decided to make baby food. I enjoy spending time in the kitchen and making things.

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Six Month Update

Here we are at six months, sort of. You were born on August 29th, so I wasn’t quite sure what to do with this month, but I knew I wasn’t missing it (or postponing it). So here we are, a whole half year since you were born.

I am so incredibly proud and amazed at how far Little P has come. Thinking about each month and how she’s grown and changed baffles me, even more, this month than it did last month!

At this point, Little P is getting her two bottom teeth in. I can see them poking through. We’re so excited for them to come all the way out. I’m excited to see what she looks like. Does that seem strange? I know she’ll still look like herself, but she’s going to have some teeth now! How adorable.

She is reaching for everything. Everything. What is that? She doesn’t know, but she wants it, and she would like to try and eat it. Thank you very much. You wouldn’t think that someone constantly trying to grab things out of your hand, or staring at you while you eat, and then trying to grab the food out of your hands would be so cute, but it is.

She is refusing to hang out on her back all day now. I don’t blame her, it had to have gotten a bit boring, even for a baby. Now the days of me putting her down and returning to find her in the same spot are long gone. She hasn’t mastered crawling quite yet. However, she’s figured out that she can just roll herself over and over to move around. If she hasn’t done that, she’s at least rolled over onto her stomach and is probably eating the blanket she’s on.

She finally likes time with me too! I know, I know, she always liked time with me, but her little face lit up so much when she saw her dad (still lights up like that) and now I get those same awed looks!

Some things I want to remember: she’s 19 pounds, 27 inches long. She just opens up her mouth (before her bottle or during solid feedings) when she’s ready for food. She starts to laugh/smile during her “cries” when she knows she’s going to get what she wants. She loves her butterfly singing toy and specifically the cow on another singing toy.

Momma Update

This month (at least today) I’m feeling great and confident. My body feels good. I’m still at my pregnancy weight, but most of that weight is in my thighs and I’m happy with that. I’m working out, I’m working on things that interest me, and I’m feeling that vibe right now.

I didn’t realize how much I truly lost myself in just being a mom. That was my existence. Wake up, take care of anything Little P needs first and myself second. My daughter’s needs are still and always will be first, but now I understand I can take care of myself too. Wanna work out? Involve the little one. She gets so hype when I’m exercising and just looking at her smiling. The work out goes way better because my baby’s happiness hyped me up and she had a good time. Win-win.

I take advantage of the time I can spend away from Little P too though. I feel more comfortable telling my husband that I’m going to take a shower and don’t bother me until I’m done. If she gets fussy and I’m doing something without her, I can just talk to her and let her know I’m on my way and not just rush to her. This might be more of a developmental thing on her end, but I’m taking credit for it!

After Thoughts

This month I want you to realize that your baby has grown up so much, but they’re not the only one. You’ve grown so much too! Your partner has also grown so much! Celebrate the things you’re better at during this time too. Don’t forget you exist just because you have a little one in your life.

As always, let me know what you think!
How are you liking the new look? If you are a parent, did you lose yourself? Tell me about finding yourself again or how you never managed to lose yourself in the first place. Expecting mommas/dadas, tell me how you’re going to celebrate you!

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Five Months Later

Some Thoughts on the Early Months

It really does go by so fast. You bring Baby home and it feels like you just got tossed into a world where you’re completely unprepared. Then, you finally start getting into a rhythm. Change, feed, put to sleep. Baby doesn’t always make those steps easy, but things start making sense at least.

There are so many firsts to experience in the beginning months. The first smile, laugh, the first time they roll over (front to back and back to front). Everything is new and exciting for both them and for you. The little person today is way different than the little one you brought home from the hospital.

When my Little P was born she was 7 pounds 4.4 ounces. Now, she’s 17 pounds. She loves to look at anything and everything, it’s a brand new world and now she’s discovering it. She’s sleeping through the night (mostly) and is getting ready to sleep in her own room in the next month or so. She’s starting to get some solids in her diet as well.

I thought I couldn’t love her anymore when my husband and I were first handed her, but every single day I look at her so proud. What a beautiful girl, so smart, and so strong.

Going through all the pictures and thinking about all the changes that have happened, and the changes that are still to come, just made me realize how important it is to be as present as you can be with your children. They change so quickly, learning to do new things, and discovering how things work.

I feel so anxious about how I’m doing as a parent every day, some days more than others. So, I’m using today as a day to decide to also enjoy my time and to not feel like I’m messing everything up. Don’t forget to enjoy your child. Take a few minutes and just realize how far you both have come. Enjoy being a parent! It’s a wonderful adventure.

As always, feel free to let me know what you think! What’s one thing that stands out to you the most from the beginning months with your little one?

Postpartum and Beyond

Help Me Help You

How You and Your Partner Can Stay Partners

When you first bring Baby home from the hospital you may think that there will be no problems between you and your partner. You’ll probably think that you have a strong relationship and that everything will just fall into place. If you’re lucky enough that everything works out then I’m so happy for you. For me and my husband it took a bit of figuring out. A few months into Little P’s life I realized that not only did I need some extra support, but so did my husband.

Since I’ve finally come to that realization, I wanted to compile a list of things that you can use to help you and your partner continue to help and support each other at least throughout Baby’s early months.

1. Talk to Each Other

It’s my favorite piece of advice.
Take time out of both of your days and once Baby is asleep talk to each other. Try to keep it to adult stuff, weather, politics, how you’re doing, whatever. You’re still people even though you have a baby now. It’s okay to spend some time in your day talking about something other than how many poopy diapers you had to change.
If you need to you can also add in a day where you talk about things that are bugging you (more specifically about what the other person does or how to raise Baby). Maybe you need more help doing laundry or what have you, bring it up during that time.

2. Have a Specific Daddy Day or Mommy Day

If one of you works, the one who stays at home probably feels like they need to do a lot of the childcare stuff. Maybe you both work and one partner is still picking up more of the childcare stuff.
It’s very important that both of you gets a complete day to themselves to just relax. If only one parent works, then choose a day (or even a few hours) that is completely up to the working parent to take care of the baby. This gives the one who stays at home a chance to be by themselves (trust me, you will need at least a little bit of time).
If you both work, then give each of yourselves a day. Maybe one parent takes Saturday and the other takes Sunday.

The main thing is that you’ll both know your roles on that day. One of you will get a bunch of time learning your baby and the other will be able to relax for a little bit.
Plus if you’re both home, you will both get to help each other if needed.
The goal is to get a break, not to completely abandon your partner on this day!

3. Get a Safe Word

When you are completely overwhelmed while taking care of Baby, figure out how to tell your partner. Obviously with a newborn, you can very easily just say something along the lines of “Take it, I can’t do it”, but if you have a child who can understand a little more, that’s a rude thing to say.
Get a phrase that you can say to your partner to let them know that you are at the end of your rope and you need them to step in and take over while you collect yourself.

4. Neither of You Can Do It All

You are both here to help each other. Try not to get caught up in keeping score or assuming your partner can handle whatever they’re dealing with.
Maybe you’re better at figuring out why Baby is crying, maybe they’re better at getting Baby to sleep. Offer help to each other! If you see your partner is struggling, then ask them if they need help. You’re both going through this together, don’t just leave your partner struggling because you assume they can do it.

5. Show Each Other Affection

If you’re staying at home with Baby all day I know it can get exhausting being in constant physical contact with someone.
(Don’t think so now? Just wait, your time may be coming.)
Maybe at the end of the day, you just don’t feel like being touched. That isn’t fair to your partner, or to yourself.

Now, I’m not saying you should force yourself to get into the mood, but take a few minutes to hug your partner or something similar. Hold their hand, snuggle up against each other, give each other a kiss. Just take a moment to remind each other that yes, you’re both tired, but you do still care for each other.
Saying I love you is great, but every once in a while, a hug really goes the extra mile in giving each other comfort.

6. Be Understanding

Don’t get mad that you can go a whole day without help from your partner and your partner always seems to need help with Baby. Don’t be upset that you go to work, come home, and the dishes still aren’t done.

You’re both going through things. You both have different tolerances for what they can handle with Baby or dealing with their work days. If something isn’t done, don’t just be angry with your partner. Ask if they can get to it now, or if they’d like you to take care of it.
Also, if your partner needs help with Baby, don’t be upset! You had to figure out Baby too, if you’re more in tune with what Baby needs then help your partner figure it out as well.

Just try to take a second to put yourselves in their shoes.

Thoughts

As long as you both are trying to do right by Baby and to each other, then you’re doing good. Try to cut each other some slack and really get your communication skills going. Don’t shut the other person out because you don’t want to make their day harder. If you’re having a tough time, tell your partner. Maybe they just needed to hear you were struggling to realize they needed to help out more.
You were partners before Baby and you can keep being partners with Baby!

So, let me know what you think.
Do you think I oversimplified things? Do you have tricks on how you and your partner stayed partners throughout Baby’s early years?
Let me know!