Updates

8 Month Update

Another month has just flown by. I know every update I do I seem to get lost at how fast time is going and how much Little P is growing and different. It’s just so baffling! I can’t believe it.

My husband and I now have a crawler. Seeing her curiously crawl around is so much fun and so stressful. You don’t realize how much stuff you have that a baby shouldn’t be grabbing and playing with until you have a baby pulling at cords and trying to climb on everything.

We’re also finally at the age where our dog is more interested in her. He realizes she gets people food now, so he’s right below her when Little P eats. Little P is also smitten with him. He’s a pug, so they’re both small. She’ll crawl right up to him and they touch noses while they stare into each other’s souls.

Her first word was “dada”. Of course, right? She can drink from her sippy cup by herself. She can also drink from her bottle by herself, but she prefers if we feed her. She pulls herself to stand and uses furniture to walk around.

Every month I think there’s no way I could love her more because she’s already so incredible. Here we are again though. I’m just so amazed at the transformation in a matter of months.

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Postpartum and Beyond

Why Babies are Terrible

Babies have a reputation of being cute and innocent. They’re small and they don’t know anything. Don’t let this reputation fool you though. They are really adorable little terrors. They come into your life and they turn everything upside down. Today we are going to take a look at why babies are actually the worst.

They’re freeloaders

They come into your house (sometimes they’re late and other times they’re early. Hello?! Have they heard of the due date?) and then they start demanding things from you. They want food, they want to be held, and they can’t even wipe themselves after they go to the bathroom? If they’re not sleeping they want something of yours. They don’t even understand the concept of money, so it’s just a waste of time trying to get their cut of the rent from them.

Poor communication skills

The only thing they know how to do is cry. They don’t know any language at all. So how does a baby tell you what they need you ask? They cry at you. When they’re brand new it’s all the same cry too. Are they hungry? Tired? Wet themselves? Who knows? Just that baby and they’re not making it any easier on you. I don’t want to accuse people of things, but I’m pretty sure they’re doing it on purpose.

Grabbing

What’s up with this? They see something and they just reach they’re little hands out for it. Phones, glasses, remotes, hair, just your face, it doesn’t matter. Nothing is safe anymore. What happens if they get a hold of it you ask? Well, they’re probably going to put it right in their mouth or they will manage to break it. My daughter once tried to eat my chin once. So, if you thought your face was safe, you were wrong.

Claws

You thought babies had regular finger and toe nails? Oh, no. They have little tiny claws that grow back quickly. Babies can be fast, so you’re never safe from a scratch or them digging into your skin. Cutting those things are hard too. They’re so curious with what you’re doing that they don’t sit still. Your best bet is to try and do it while they’re asleep and hope you don’t wake them. Be careful, if you cut them, you’ll not only feel terrible, but they’ll cry and cry because of it.

Sleep

For something that loves sleep (they need so much of it), they absolutely hate going to bed. They’re probably going to fight it. They can rub and rub at their little eyes, get caught sleeping sitting up, and still refuse to go to bed. They have a serious fear of missing out.

Another thing, they wake up early! If you think you’re getting a later day because the baby was up later, you’re probably wrong. Somehow the late night means they require less sleep and they’ll be up even earlier to wake you up!

Adrenaline Junkie

They have absolutely no concept of what is and isn’t dangerous? Electric plug, better grab and put my fingers in this. Large heavy objects? Better pull and try and stand on/against this. What is this? Put it in my mouth. You can’t even trust them sleeping. Babies are just constantly looking for their next adventure and don’t you even try to tell them no. You try and keep them from danger and they’re going to cry at you.

Personal Space

They have no concept of this. You need to get used to someone wanting to be by you constantly. Did I say by? I meant on top of you. They love to climb and be held by you. That is unless they’re trying to get their adrenaline fix. Your options as parent are now be a jungle gym, a bed, or following them around the house as they find dangerous objects or dirt.

So, there you have it. Those are a few of my reasons why babies are the worst.

I should also make it clear that I’m joking.

Babies do have a habit of unintentionally being the worst though. What are a few quirks that you notice babies do that you would add to this list? Also, let me know what you guys thought of the post. I needed something a little more lighthearted today.

Thanks for reading and I will see you next time!

Postpartum and Beyond

Utilize your Village

Once to twice a week my parents will take Little P for the day. Usually Friday is my dad’s day and my mom will get Saturday or Sunday depending on her plans and what I have going on. I never thought anything of it until one of my friends pointed out that Little P is with one of her grandparents a lot. Now, that friend probably didn’t mean it in a rude way, but I’ve noticed there can be a lot of judgement thrown around when someone else is watching your baby.

I’ve seen a good number of, “you’ll never see me leaving my baby at my mom’s so I can go do *insert something here*”. I think, for the most part, the comments are directed at people who go out and party consistently or are always doing things minus the baby. To an extent, I see the party point. It would have to be close to a daily type of thing for me to start to judge it though.

It annoys me that comments are being made at all though.

Yes, I’m a stay at home mom currently, and up to twice a week, I take Little P to one of her grandparents’ houses and take the day to myself. I love my daughter with all my heart. I cherish every moment I get with her. I also cherish moments I can get away from her. That doesn’t make me a bad person or parent. It’s nice to clean, relax, and get work done without one eye suspiciously following a seven month old. I mean really, you just start doing one thing and then there’s silence? What has that child gotten into already?

I think once you have a kid people forget that you’re still your own person. You essentially become two people: you and the baby. I’ve noticed this more so with women. However, I’m speaking from experience. I don’t see why a stay at home dad wouldn’t be faced with the same struggles. “Oh, where’s the baby?”, “No baby today?”, or even “Would you like to go do *insert not baby friendly activity here*” which would be directed to the other parent.

Why are my options as a newer parent either be excluded or be judged for taking me time?

I am grateful for my daughter and all the challenges she brings. I’m also grateful for parents who allow me a day’s worth of peace. I’m a parent and that comes first, but I’m also me still. I’m still introverted and value my space. I’m still bipolar and need to take care of myself.

They say it takes a village to raise a kid and I’m happy I have a village I can utilize when I need them. It helps me to recharge and refocus. I get to come back as a better mom and partner every time I get her back at the end of those days.

If you’re a parent and you “don’t need a break” from you kids, then I applaud you. Maybe one day you’ll know what I’m talking about, or maybe you never will, but please don’t go out of your way to make someone else feel bad for taking a break from their kids. We all have our own system and ways to make life work.

All right, I think that about wraps it up for today. Let me know what you guys think! Did it feel like I was getting onto a soapbox? Can you relate?

Have a great day and I will see you next time.

Pregnancy

2nd Trimester to Do

Congratulations! You made it through the first trimester. A lot of people refer this to the honeymoon phase of being pregnant. A lot of women feel more energized than they did last trimester and hopefully your nausea is a bit better than the previous months as well. Whether or not you consider this the easier months, here is a list of things you should be looking at doing during the upcoming weeks.

Prepare for doctor visits

I religiously checked what each and every doctor visit would be like. I don’t like doctors and I like being prepared. You’ll be seeing your doctor roughly every four weeks. For the most part they’re all pretty standard. You’ll get weighed, blood pressure checked, and you’ll be able to talk to your doctor about any concerns. This trimester you’ll be taking the glucose test, so be prepared for that around weeks 24-28. Short version is that you’ll drink a sugary drink, they test your blood, and it will help determine if you have gestational diabetes. There’s a possibility of having to take this twice. One is short (about an hour), the other is three hours.

Decide if you want to know sex

This trimester you’ll get to discover the sex of the baby if you want to. You can opt to not know, have the doctor write it down so you can have a gender reveal party, or you can just find out when you’re getting the ultrasound.

Think about maternity/paternity leave

Will both parents be taking time off once the baby arrives? Some workplaces offer paternity/family leave for expecting parents. Figure out if this is offered, how long it is, if it’s paid/unpaid, and if this is something you’ll be able to take advantage of.

Mom, you get to find out how long your maternity leave is. If you’re newer at your job and FMLA doesn’t apply for you, then figure out how long you’re able to take leave for. Will you be returning to work or will you be staying home with baby?

Finances

Take a good look at your finances and cut back on things you don’t really need. Also, see if you can start saving any more money. Having a baby can definitely put a strain on your finances, but you can do it. This would be a good time to also decide if your family can afford either parent not going back to work.

Baby registry/showers

Decide whether you want to have a baby shower. If so, work on getting that planned out or find a helpful friend who would love to plan it for you (or at least help). Either way, I would make at least one baby registry. There are a lot of cool goodies/freebies you can get for creating registries. Amazon was my go to, the goodies were nice, and honestly it’s just so convenient. When people ask what you need you can direct them to your registry. Another tip, see which of your friends/family has had kids, odds are they have some things that they can give you.

Find/continue prenatal exercises

Keep up the pregnancy safe exercise! It is so good for you. If you take a class then you get the opportunity to meet and connect with people going through the same things you are. It can also keep you motivated to go. However, if a class isn’t for you, you can always find some pregnancy safe exercises online and do them right at home. Just make sure you get some movement in.

Drink water

This is very important through every single trimester. I still recommend getting a big water bottle and taking it with you wherever you go.

Adult time

Some people go with a babymoon, AKA a special holiday for you and your significant other. If this is your first baby, then you might want to take advantage of the last time you’ll be getting some peace and quiet. If this isn’t your first kid, you probably really want to take advantage of this one, just make sure you get someone to watch your other kids.
Even if you don’t think you’ll need one, I recommend doing something, even if it’s just dinner and a movie. It will be the last dinner and movie you’ll have for a while without either worrying about a babysitter and how your baby is doing or without a baby joining you for date night.

Maternity clothes

Get some comfy clothes for you! My main goal while pregnant was comfort. I didn’t care what I looked like as long as I felt good. However, there were times when I was bummed I didn’t have clothes other than yoga pants. So, while I don’t think you should feel obligated to dress up and look nice all the time, you may want to get a couple of cute, flattering clothes as well.

Begin preparing pets and/or other kids

Don’t forget that this is going to be a transition for your other kids (yes, the furry ones as well). Talk to your human kids (if you have them) to try and help them with the transition to getting a new brother or sister. If you have pets, mix up your schedule a bit from day to day and getting them used to walking while you push a stroller. They’re your babies too, so try to make this easier for them as well.

There you have it, some of my second trimester things you should be doing. While you’re busy getting everything prepared try to take some time to enjoy where you are. Being pregnant can be overwhelming at times, so make sure you find some good and remember that too.

Let me know what you think and I will see you next time!

Postpartum and Beyond

What I Hate about my Pediatrician

Overall, I really like my pediatrician’s office. They have an entrance for healthy kids and an entrance for sick kids. The wait times seem to get longer and longer, but I come to expect that with all doctor’s offices, so I’m pretty forgiving on wait times. There are two things that come to mind when I think about why I dislike my pediatrician.

The first, is very minor. When we took Little P in for her first office visit the doctor we saw said that she had jaundice and recommended we bring her back in a couple of days to check on how it was progressing. We came back, saw a different doctor, who basically said he had no idea what the last person was talking about. So, definitely minor, but a big old waste of my time and that was frustrating. I guess I’d rather have them be safe than sorry.

The real reason that I have been incredibly frustrated with my pediatrician is that they constantly harp about Little P’s weight. It’s also how they go on about her weight. At our four month visit, Little P had put on five pounds since her two month visit. Personally, five pounds in two months isn’t that big of a deal to me. However, we weigh her (the nurses go on about how they love a bit of a chunky baby, it’s great) and then the doctor comes in. “Five pounds, momma, wow. Five pounds momma.”

My husband is here and my husband is also taking care of and feeding our daughter. Why is it “five pounds momma”? After a multitude of shocked “five pounds momma”, the doctor then proceeded to tell us that once a baby starts moving around the weight gain tends to slow down.

This visit has seriously stuck with me as a parent. My daughter was and is still in the normal weight range. We don’t overfeed her, she dramatically coughs and gags if we try and give her a bottle she doesn’t want. Plus, she’s happy and other than the “five pounds momma” has had no issues. No matter how many times I tell myself all those things though, I hear that stupid voice “five pounds momma, wow”. On a bad day, this memory makes me feel inadequate as a parent. On a good day, it’s just a dramatic pediatrician who was surprised at a hungry baby.

It may seem really small to some people. I’m sure it doesn’t bother my husband anymore, if it ever did at all. As a brand new mom though, it’s frustrating. Why was it only my fault that the baby had gained five pounds? Why was it a big deal she gained five pounds in two months? It wasn’t a week or even one month, it was two. How was I supposed to prevent that? Not feed her even though I knew she was hungry?

It made me think that doctors can have a very narrow view of what should and shouldn’t be happening with a baby. At our six month visit, Little P had only put on two pounds. The doctor, however, still seemed hung up on the previous visit’s weight gain. She mentioned again, “Oh, once a baby’s moving around the weight gain isn’t that big of a deal”, “Oh, was she breastfed? They tend to be bigger babies”. It’s frustrating and not productive. I’d rather the doctor give advice on weight loss at this point.

If the doctor is concerned about the weight, then that’s fine. Maybe it is a big deal and I just don’t get it. That’s the point when the doctor should give advice and next steps though. Not just say, “oh five pounds, wow mom”. I also, don’t want to be the only one getting spoken to. My husband made Little P too, he makes an effort to go to every single doctor visit, don’t exclude him from the conversation.

So, there you have it. The reason (well two) that I dislike my pediatrician. Overall, the positives outweigh the negatives, so I don’t see us switching pediatricians. It just kind of gives me a reason to feel like I should doubt myself. Remember to make sure you pick a pediatrician that works for you though! You’re going to have a relationship with them for a long time, so make sure you get someone who gives you a good experience and who is competent.

As always, let me know what you think! Do you have any doctor horror stories? Or even better, any “my doctor is the best” stories?