Pregnancy

2nd Trimester to Do

Congratulations! You made it through the first trimester. A lot of people refer this to the honeymoon phase of being pregnant. A lot of women feel more energized than they did last trimester and hopefully your nausea is a bit better than the previous months as well. Whether or not you consider this the easier months, here is a list of things you should be looking at doing during the upcoming weeks.

Prepare for doctor visits

I religiously checked what each and every doctor visit would be like. I don’t like doctors and I like being prepared. You’ll be seeing your doctor roughly every four weeks. For the most part they’re all pretty standard. You’ll get weighed, blood pressure checked, and you’ll be able to talk to your doctor about any concerns. This trimester you’ll be taking the glucose test, so be prepared for that around weeks 24-28. Short version is that you’ll drink a sugary drink, they test your blood, and it will help determine if you have gestational diabetes. There’s a possibility of having to take this twice. One is short (about an hour), the other is three hours.

Decide if you want to know sex

This trimester you’ll get to discover the sex of the baby if you want to. You can opt to not know, have the doctor write it down so you can have a gender reveal party, or you can just find out when you’re getting the ultrasound.

Think about maternity/paternity leave

Will both parents be taking time off once the baby arrives? Some workplaces offer paternity/family leave for expecting parents. Figure out if this is offered, how long it is, if it’s paid/unpaid, and if this is something you’ll be able to take advantage of.

Mom, you get to find out how long your maternity leave is. If you’re newer at your job and FMLA doesn’t apply for you, then figure out how long you’re able to take leave for. Will you be returning to work or will you be staying home with baby?

Finances

Take a good look at your finances and cut back on things you don’t really need. Also, see if you can start saving any more money. Having a baby can definitely put a strain on your finances, but you can do it. This would be a good time to also decide if your family can afford either parent not going back to work.

Baby registry/showers

Decide whether you want to have a baby shower. If so, work on getting that planned out or find a helpful friend who would love to plan it for you (or at least help). Either way, I would make at least one baby registry. There are a lot of cool goodies/freebies you can get for creating registries. Amazon was my go to, the goodies were nice, and honestly it’s just so convenient. When people ask what you need you can direct them to your registry. Another tip, see which of your friends/family has had kids, odds are they have some things that they can give you.

Find/continue prenatal exercises

Keep up the pregnancy safe exercise! It is so good for you. If you take a class then you get the opportunity to meet and connect with people going through the same things you are. It can also keep you motivated to go. However, if a class isn’t for you, you can always find some pregnancy safe exercises online and do them right at home. Just make sure you get some movement in.

Drink water

This is very important through every single trimester. I still recommend getting a big water bottle and taking it with you wherever you go.

Adult time

Some people go with a babymoon, AKA a special holiday for you and your significant other. If this is your first baby, then you might want to take advantage of the last time you’ll be getting some peace and quiet. If this isn’t your first kid, you probably really want to take advantage of this one, just make sure you get someone to watch your other kids.
Even if you don’t think you’ll need one, I recommend doing something, even if it’s just dinner and a movie. It will be the last dinner and movie you’ll have for a while without either worrying about a babysitter and how your baby is doing or without a baby joining you for date night.

Maternity clothes

Get some comfy clothes for you! My main goal while pregnant was comfort. I didn’t care what I looked like as long as I felt good. However, there were times when I was bummed I didn’t have clothes other than yoga pants. So, while I don’t think you should feel obligated to dress up and look nice all the time, you may want to get a couple of cute, flattering clothes as well.

Begin preparing pets and/or other kids

Don’t forget that this is going to be a transition for your other kids (yes, the furry ones as well). Talk to your human kids (if you have them) to try and help them with the transition to getting a new brother or sister. If you have pets, mix up your schedule a bit from day to day and getting them used to walking while you push a stroller. They’re your babies too, so try to make this easier for them as well.

There you have it, some of my second trimester things you should be doing. While you’re busy getting everything prepared try to take some time to enjoy where you are. Being pregnant can be overwhelming at times, so make sure you find some good and remember that too.

Let me know what you think and I will see you next time!

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Why Pregnancy Sucks

A lot of the time pregnancy is presented as a magical time. If you had a great and magical time while you were pregnant, then that’s great. You know what though? Pregnancy kind of sucks. It’s nine months of hormones and changes in your body. It can be confusing and a little bit scary. It kind of sounds like going through puberty all over again. So let’s take a look at some of the lower parts of pregnancy.

Swollen feet/ankles and hands

I had this in my third trimester. It was awful. I couldn’t wear certain shoes because they just didn’t fit and I couldn’t wear my wedding ring. Work was a bit annoying at the time as well. Typing was a bit more of a hassle with little chubby fingers. Walking on swollen feet hurts as well! Most of the time I just wanted to sit back, prop my feet up, beg my husband to please rub my feet (again), and just relax.

Morning Sickness and nausea

Does anyone know why it’s called morning sickness? Maybe it’s because you can feel more sick when you first wake up. I’m not too sure, but odds are you’re going to feel sick a lot. It will not be exclusively in the morning. Certain smells will probably make you feel sick and might even make you throw up. If you’re lucky like I was, then just hearing about a food would make you sick. I don’t know how this one happened. My husband kept talking about spaghetti, next thing I knew the word itself (more so the actual thought of the food) made me feel sick, and I ended up throwing up.
So magical.

Urination

The bathroom will probably be your best friend during your pregnancy. If you’re not throwing up (or thinking you’re going to throw up), then you’re probably peeing. You have to drink more water to take care of your body and your growing baby, but even without that extra intake of water, your hormones are causing blood to flow to the kidneys quicker, which fills your good old bladder up faster. Plus, later on your baby is basically sitting (and kicking and punching) your bladder.

Leg cramps

I’m not sure if this one is super common. I had the worst leg cramps though. Not throughout the day either. My leg cramps showed up in the middle of the night after I finally got to sleep. Have you ever been woken up because your calf is trying to murder you? It’s not pleasant.

Pain

Back pain, hip pain, pelvis pain, headaches. You name it. A growing belly puts a lot of strain on different parts of your body. I personally had a bunch of back pain and hip pain. It’s annoying to have a bunch of emotions and then pain in various parts of your body. Honestly, I cried once because my hips were bothering me so much. It wasn’t because it was a severe pain, just dull and it was there for so long. Like one of those dull headaches that never seem to leave.

Moodiness

Speaking of crying, you’re probably going to be pretty moody. For me, the first trimester was like a bad case of PMS, the second trimester was okay, but the third trimester was the worst. However, the third trimester might have been so bad because at that point I was done being pregnant. Please, get the child out of me, because I don’t want to be how I am anymore.

Alcohol

Congratulations if you don’t drink, this isn’t that bad for you. I however, enjoy a few glasses of wine. All right, a couple of times I’ve finished the whole bottle, that’s not what we’re talking about. After a long, hard day, it’s nice to be able to enjoy an alcoholic beverage to unwind. After a long, hard day of pregnancy, hopefully you have an endless supply of massages because I’m not quite sure how you unwind.

Dietary Restrictions

Oh, you think because you’re pregnant you can eat whatever you want? No girl. Overall, you want to be eating mainly healthy things. You don’t want to load your baby up with junk food constantly. Plus, some women get gestational diabetes as well, so they have to be extra careful with what they eat. Overall, I’m not saying you can’t splurge, but you can’t constantly use being pregnant as an excuse to eat unhealthy food.


There you have it, some of the lows of pregnancy. Sure, some women have super easy pregnancies, and while I slightly resent them for it, that’s so great for them. Some women have even more difficulties and problems with their pregnancies. I think for the most part, people tend to fall somewhere in the middle.

While pregnancy is a cool time, you’re growing a baby, that’s pretty awesome, don’t forget that it doesn’t have to be magical. If you don’t feel like a glowing beauty the whole time, then that’s fine. Don’t forget, it’s only nine months (even though the last trimester can feel longer) and at the end of it all, you’ll get a beautiful little baby.

Let me know what you guys think. Were your pregnancies hard, easy, or in the middle?

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What Pregnancy Trends I Skipped

The only real pregnancy celebration that I remember people having when I was younger, was the classic baby shower. Nowadays people have fancy pictures to announce their pregnancy, gender reveal parties, baby showers, maternity photos, and even the month to month pregnancy update photos. There’s a lot to take care of and it is understandable that people want to document and remember this time in their lives.

I had a very simple pregnancy. We decided to skip out on a lot of the extra stuff. There’s nothing wrong with them. It just wasn’t our kind of thing. Now that I’m no longer pregnant I’ve taken a look back at my experiences and here are the things that I’m glad that I had, the ones I’m glad I missed, and what I wish I experienced.

Glad to Experience

Birth Announcement: All right, compared to others, my birth announcement was probably pretty average. It did feel really nice to post it to social media and have my friends and family all congratulate us though. The announcement also helped me reconnect with an old friend as well. She was always really nice throughout my pregnancy and checked up on me to see how I was doing. I wouldn’t have gotten that experience with my friend if I hadn’t done an announcement.

3D Ultrasound: We did two of these. The first was early and the second was late in the pregnancy. This was honestly a really beautiful and great experience. The detail is way better than the doctor’s office, and while those ultrasounds are nice, with the 3D ultrasound I really felt like we were seeing and connecting with our daughter. Plus, we got to share the 3D ultrasound with both of our parents, who really appreciated the experience as well.

Month to Month Belly Pictures: I didn’t think I was going to be into this one. I saw some really cute ones that people did though and decided I might as well partake. I’m glad I did. I didn’t do anything fancy. I just put how far along I was in the corner of the picture. It is so crazy to see the changes though. I like being able to see how my body changed and how I grew closer and closer to becoming a mother.

Glad to Pass

Gender Reveal Party: I’m sorry, I just find this one to be pointless. I’m glad people can have them and enjoy them, but it’s not an experience I needed. I also waited to reveal the fact that I was pregnant until I knew the gender of the baby. So, my birth announcement included the gender. It seemed much simpler and I’m glad I did it that way instead.

Baby Shower: Yes, we skipped on the baby shower too. Honestly, not upset. Maybe if my parents didn’t go overboard with making sure I had everything then the baby shower would make more sense. They did take care of a lot and friends and family who were farther away took care of a lot of the rest.

Wish to Experience

Maternity Photos: I obviously took pictures while I was pregnant, but I wouldn’t mind having more professional looking images. Let’s be honest, a lot of the poses are pretty cheesy, but I think overall the experience of actually having the pictures taken would be fun. This would’ve been a good way to get my husband involved too.

Thoughts

Overall, no regrets for my pregnancy experiences. I only posted the birth announcement on social media everything else I kept private. Most of these experiences seem tied to sharing on social media, which wasn’t something we were ever interested in.

Obviously, every person is different. If you want to experience these things, then go at it. Plan those parties and do whatever you want. If you don’t, then don’t be too worried about missing out. Experience your pregnancy however you want to.

Now let me know what you think. What are some pregnancy experiences you skipped out on or wish you experienced?