Mental Health

How to Be Kinder to Yourself

Do you notice how mean and critical we can be to ourselves? When other people make a mistake I am much more understanding and patient with them than I am with myself when I make a mistake. Having some self compassion is a really important part of self-care and, in my opinion, it can get really overlooked. Let’s take a look at some of the ways that we can all be a little kinder to ourselves.

Celebrate Yourself

Celebrate the things that you accomplish. You’re doing great things every day. Recognize those accomplishments and congratulate yourself on them! Even if you’re having a bad day and you feel like all you did was mess up all day. Pick something you did. Recognize that you tried and let yourself know that it’s a good thing.

Nurture Your Advocate

You’re probably really familiar with your self critic. They’re the ones coming in with mean words and judgement. How familiar are you with the nicer voice in your head though. Now, don’t get me wrong, the critic can be very motivating, but they can also really bring you down. So, make sure you’re also saying nice, positive things to yourself. You probably won’t be able to completely shut your critic up and like I said, it can be helpful. So, when that voice stops being helpful to you, it’s time to become your advocate. Respond to the critic with kind words about yourself. Keep at it.

Forgive Yourself

We all make mistakes. Start forgiving yourself for yours. Failures and mistakes are apart of life. You wouldn’t berate a child (or even a friend) constantly for the mistakes that they’ve made. You forgive them, teach them, and help them move on. Start doing that with yourself! This isn’t the first mistake you’ve made and it won’t be the last. It’s okay. You’ll get better.

Treat Yourself

You don’t need to break the bank to treat yourself. Grab your go to comfort item and take a breather. Especially after a hard day. Just give yourself the opportunity to relax. Take a bath, grab a book, listen to that song that lifts you up. Now that doesn’t mean you can’t treat yourself to some retail therapy as well. Just don’t overspend if you can’t afford it quite yet.

Take a Break

If you’re able to, take a mental health day. Put everything not essential on hold for the day or even an hour. Do something that you enjoy. Be kind to yourself during that time. Recharge and prepare to tackle whatever it was that was bringing you down in the first place. It’s okay to take a breather every once in a while.


Being kinder to yourself is such an important part of self care and is so easily missed. I hope this helps you be kinder to yourself! This was especially important for me to write because I was being extra hard on myself and I also needed the reminder to be nicer.

Let me know what you think! Are you guilty of being meaner to yourself than you should be?

Thank you so much for stopping by and I’ll see you next time.

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Mental Health

The Benefits of a Daily Routine

If you’re a parent, I’m sure you know that a routine is really good for your baby. It’s a lot easier to plan out your day if you now little one is going to be hungry or sleepy around a certain time. Were you aware that structuring a routine for your day will also benefit you?

As a person with bipolar disorder, a routine is especially important for me. However, it wasn’t until I had my daughter that I really got serious about a daily routine. Now that I have one, both me and my daughter are having much better days! I’m better at detecting reasons why my daughter is in a certain mood and I’m feeling more stable and am noticing changes in my mood better as well. So, today, let’s take a look at why a routine is good for everyone.


More Productive

You are going to be one of those people who gets all their work done, cooks healthy dinner, and goes to the gym! All right, maybe not right away. If you create a routine and stick to it, things will start becoming second nature. Plus, if you schedule out a chunk of time to do something, you’re more likely to do it and not procrastinate. Of course, things in life can always come up, but just structuring your day is the first step in helping you get all those things done!

Self-Care

When you create a routine you are helping to prioritize self-care. You aren’t going to schedule out your day and not include times to shower, relax, (and hopefully) exercise. There have been times in my life where everything got away from me. I was so wound up and busy taking care of everyone else, that I wasn’t taking care of myself. I finally took a shower and while I was still stressed, just being clean made me feel like I could keep going. A routine helps me take care of me and still take care of my family.

Good Habits

I want to be the kind of person who wakes up early, has some time to themselves for a few minutes, and then gets my kid up and ready for her day. I also want to exercise and meditate every day. When I was just “winging” my days, I never had time to do those things. I was also relying on my daughter to wake me up because I was staying up later than I should to fit in all the things I didn’t get to while she was awake.


Scheduling my days, I realize I have time to do those things during the day. I may not be at the point where my day is thrown off if I do skip an exercise day, but I’m beginning to plant those seeds and am beginning to create all those positive changes that I want.

Healthy Sleeping Habits

Sleep is so important for our bodies. When you start getting a consistent sleeping routine, your body just naturally takes to it. We’ve all had those days, when you’re supposed to be off of work, but your body missed the memo and wakes you up anyway. With a routine, you (and your body) know when to sleep and when to wake up. You’re probably also adding in some much needed relaxation before bed as well. So, getting to sleep can be easier and you should be sleeping better as well.

Reduces Stress. Increase Relaxation.

You no longer have to worry about scheduling out your hectic days right when you get up. You’re not scrambling around trying to get everything done and then somehow getting nothing done at the end of the day. Now, you have an idea of when (and how) you’re going to get everything done.

When everything is flowing and you’re going through your routine, you’re also helping yourself relax. You can minimize a lot of “what do I have to do next?” and the stress associated with that. Now, it might just be me, but seeing all of my accomplishments during the day makes me way more calm and relaxed at the end of the night.


There are some of the ways that getting yourself on a routine can help you! If you’re feeling down or in general just want to make some positive changes in yourself, start a routine! Do you already have a routine going or are you planning to start one? Let me know how you like or dislike it.

Thank you so much for stopping by! I’ll see you next time.

Pregnancy

3rd Trimester To Do

You’re nearly there! Hooray! I hope you’re just as excited as you are tired of being pregnant. Now that you’re here (or nearly there) let’s take a look at the things you should be taking care of in these final months.

Baby Movements

Keep track of your baby’s movements. If you notice less kicks it may mean there’s a problem and you should contact your doctor. It will also help you feel close to baby. It’s fun to talk with them while they’re moving and kicking around.

Pediatrician

Find a doctor for your baby. Most doctors should let you stop by and talk with them to see if the office (and doctor) is a good fit for you. You’re going to be seeing this doctor a lot, so you want to make sure you like them.

Baby Gear Set Up

Make sure baby’s room is all set up. Get used to working the stroller, get the car seat installed, and get that nursery set up how you want it. Getting familiar with how everything works will help prevent you from being tired with a crying baby and being outsmarted by a car seat. Plus, it can be a lot of fun. It’s a good way to use all that excited/nervous energy you may be having.

Laundry

Get all of your baby’s clothes and bedding washed now. You can get everything all organized and put away now. If you’re behind on your laundry, get that cleaned and put away as well. Don’t cheat and only wash your clothes and let them sit in dryer. It’ll be nice to be able to not worry about laundry for a week when you first get home with baby.

Hospital Bag

Get that hospital bag set up. If you have an extra charger, go ahead and put that in there. Trust me, it’s the obvious things that are easiest to forget. Regardless, make sure you’ve got some clothes for you, your partner, and baby.

Stock up on Personals

Make sure you have shampoo/conditioner, toilet paper, razors, body wash, etc. Get trash bags, soap, and anything else you can think of. Once again, it will be nice to have too many now. You don’t want to be exhausted and then have to run to the store because you are completely out of toilet paper.

Meals

Make some meals and freeze them now. Purchase freezer meals. Get a little stockpile of food. This is another way that you’re just making your life a little bit easier once you bring baby home.

Clean

Get your house as clean as you can. It will be nice when baby is home to have a clean house to come back too. You don’t want to be scrubbing dishes when you just want a bit of sleep. You may be dealing with nesting anyway, so you’ll probably find yourself compelled to do a bunch of cleaning anyway.

Keep Calm

You’re probably nervous and excited. Don’t worry! Practice some relaxation techniques. Treat yourself to a spa day. You’re going to make it through this. You’re going to see your baby and it’s going to be great. Don’t get yourself all worked up.

You’re almost there! This trimester do everything you can to make life easier after your return from the hospital. Also make sure you are taking care of yourself. Take time to yourself, get some special time with your partner, and try not to worry. It will all work out how and when it should.

So, let me know what you think! By the time I was in my third trimester I had nearly everything done and set up, so I just had nervous energy I couldn’t use. Did you like the list? Would you add anything different?

Thank you for reading and see you next time!

Pregnancy

1st Trimester To Do

So, you’re pregnant. Yay! You’re probably excited and nervous for what the upcoming months have in store for you. Today let’s take a look at the things you should be taking care of during the beginning of your pregnancy.

Start (or continue) taking prenatal vitamins

It’s important to make sure that you and baby are getting the proper amount of nutrients. Prenatal vitamins also contain four important nutrients during pregnancy: folic acid, iron, vitamin D, and calcium. You will continue prenatal vitamins after you give birth. Most women continue them until they finish breastfeeding.

Find your doctor/Make appointment

If you already know who you want to deliver your baby, then great, go ahead and make an appointment to confirm your pregnancy. If not, then do some research and then make an appointment. You’ll be seeing a lot of this doctor and the staff, so make sure you like who you’re seeing. Don’t feel like you need to continue with the doctor you initially chose.

Stop smoking and drinking

If you smoke or drink it’s time to stop. Both habits are linked to negatives for your baby and can be very dangerous. Maybe pick up some of those fancy juices that look like champagne, but are just juice. When I was pregnant I got these on special occasions, put it in a fancy glass, and added fruit. Sure, it wasn’t alcohol, but I did feel more included with my fancy drink.

Eat healthier

You shouldn’t be eating junk food at every meal (and snack) just because you’re pregnant. You want to be getting a lot of good nutrients for you and baby. Yes, even now, at the beginning of the pregnancy. It’s honestly a good lifestyle change to make anyway. Use this as an excuse to get some healthy food into your house.

Get a pregnancy app

While not necessary, I found my pregnancy app a bunch of fun. It allowed me to track my health and informed me how my baby was developing. Take a look through your phone’s app store and give one a try.

Drink water

It is so important to get the right amount of water every day. Just like eating healthy, use your pregnancy to start a good habit. Try purchasing a big water bottle, take it with you everywhere, and make sure you use it!

Start a prenatal exercise routine

Make sure you run your exercises past your doctor to make sure that they’re okay for you. It’s good to stay active during your pregnancy. Prenatal specific exercises also help your body prepare for labor. I did prenatal yoga and it was a great time for me to unwind and relax.

Kegels

Again, find an app on your phone and download it. Kegels during pregnancy can help minimize hemorrhoids and decreased bladder control. They will also prepare those muscles for your labor and delivery. On top of that, after pregnancy Kegels help promote healing and strengthens the pelvic floor again. Stay consistent. I sporadically did Kegels during my pregnancy. A couple days here and then a couple days break. I think I would have felt more empowered and in control during my labor if I had remained more consistent.

Start talking parenting

Start talking with your partner about how you want to raise your child together. Do you want to work after you give birth? Who will take care of making food and cleaning while you heal? There’s a variety of topics that will need to start getting discussed so neither of you are blindsided when the baby gets here.

There you have it. Things you should definitely start getting taken care of in the first trimester. Let me know what you think. Are there things you would add in?

Postpartum and Beyond

The Dreaded Teething

Teething is the worst. There’s tears, frustration, confusion, and on top of that your baby is in pain and crying as well. Today, we are looking at some tips and tricks on getting through those teething times with your little one.

Take a Step Back

First, as frustrating as it is, and it is so frustrating, remember that they are so confused. They don’t get why their mouth hurts. Honestly, even if they did it would still suck. Mouth/teeth pain has got to be one of the most uncomfortable and unpleasant things. So, you just have to take a step back and remember that what they’re going through sucks. You can add some crying of your own if you like, however it’s not necessary.

Teething Rings

Get a bunch of different cooling teething rings and toys. There’s ones that are shaped like keys, that also double as pacifiers, ones shaped like animals, actual rings, and the list goes on and on. Pick a few different ones and get them nice and cool. Keep a couple of them warm and see if your baby just prefers that instead. If one teething item doesn’t work, maybe your little one prefers a different one.

Cold Washcloth

So, at one point my little one hated all of her teething rings. I don’t know what happened, they just weren’t doing it for her. I took a couple of her washcloths, got them wet, and I put one in the freezer and one in the fridge. Once they were both really cooled down I let her chew on those. The plus side to these were they stayed colder longer, but they were really cold on the hands and they got everything wet.

Frozen breast milk/formula/ice

You know those mesh food containers? You’re going to need one of those for this one. I, personally, made a bunch of formula ice cubes. Then, when my little one seemed to have a hard time eating because it hurt her, I put the formula cube into the mesh container and let her have it. It helped to ease her pain, plus she still kind of got some food. (Just to be clear I did not use that to replace a meal) If you breast feed you can also pump and freeze your breast milk. You can also simply grab some ice and see if they like that. I recommend using the mesh food container just to help protect against any potential choking and it has a handle to protect against cold fingers.

Distraction

Try to do things that your baby enjoys. Go outside for a walk, take a warm bath, sing a song, whatever your baby usually really enjoys just try that. You might be able to at least distract them for a little bit.

Pain Reliever

I never used any sort of ibuprofen, however, it is always an option if your child seems to be in a lot of pain.

Vanilla Extract

I’ve also never tried this one, however one of my friends swears by it. If I ever actually had vanilla extract in the house, I probably would have used it. The method behind this one is to put a dab of it on your finger and then to rub it on the gums.

Thoughts

I know I missed a fairly obvious one that a lot of people use which is teething gel. However, my pediatrician recommended not to use it. I also saw that the FDA had issued a recall on a lot of teething gels (sprays, etc) because there were more risks than benefits.

Honestly, the most important thing to get you through teething is patience and understanding. I know, it’s tough when you’ve got a screaming child that you can’t seem to calm down. Just remember you can get through this!

Let me know what you think! Do you have any tips and tricks on surviving teething? Don’t forget to share with your friends! Make sure everyone has some relief to get through teething.